The Meaning And Causes Of Loneliness

Loneliness tends to be truly only for chronically lonely individuals, not for “State-lonely” individuals whose loneliness is adequately explained by potent situation factors (e.g. widowhood, geographical relocation). More like a trait even when induced in an acute fashion.

 “Loneliness” by Fromm Reichmann (1959). Empirical research into loneliness was supported by the efforts of Perlman and peplum (1981), who defined loneliness as “the unpleasant experience that occurs when a person’s network of social relations is deficient in some important way, either quantitatively or qualitatively.”Another definition of loneliness, frequently used in European Countries, is formulated as follows:

 Loneliness is a situation experienced by the individual as one where there is an unpleasant or indivisible lack of (quality of) certain relationships. This includes situations, in which the number of existing relationships is smaller than is considered desirable or admissible, as well as situations where the intimacy one wishes for has not been realized.”      

 Loneliness is a subjective and negative experience, and the outcome of a cognitive evaluation of the match between the quantity and quality of existing relationships and relationship standards. The opposite of loneliness is belongingness .
Loneliness can also be defined as the distress occurs when one’s social relationships are perceived as being less satisfying than what is desired.

The work of John Bowlby on a attachment bonds (Bowlby, 1973) heralds the beginning of theoretical conceptualizations of loneliness. Roberts Weiss (1973) delineated an attachment theory of loneliness in which deficiencies in social relationships serving specific functions (e.g. attachment, social integration, and nurturance) were posited to contribute to feelings of loneliness.

·        Social loneliness – means lack of social integration.

·        Emotional loneliness – means absence of reliable attachment figure.   

   Common Causes of Loneliness

1.      People with mental illness: - People who are living with mental illness are particularly prone to feeling lonely.

2.      Lone Careers: - Caring for someone it can be very difficult to leave the house and get out and about. It is not uncommon for lone cares to feel isolated or alone.

3.      People with physical disability: - People in this condition on are at risk of experiencing loneliness for a number of reasons. Stigma and disadvantage can cause people who experience a physical disability to feel excluded from social activities.

4.      People experiencing discrimination – Being treated as different from others can often make people feel lonely or isolated. Being discriminated against because of ethnicity, gender, sexuality or any other cause.                                      

Some Reasons People feel lonely include:

1.      Technology: - Through the internet and mobile phones are awesome, they can sometimes make us fell detached from the world around us.

2.      Not fitting in: - When you are in an environment where you do not feel comfortable, when somebody bullied or discriminated against.

3.      No one listen to you: - When you are young. It can feel like no one listens to you or takes you seriously. It can make someone feel lonely and not important.

4.      Physical Isolation: - Sometimes we’re in a situation where there is just no one around. This can be as a result of moving to a new place, living alone, family moving away or someone dying.
Have a nice day.

53 Important Organic Living Tips

1. Faucet water contains fluoride in all 50 states. Purchase a reverse osmosis filter to remove it. A Britta filter won’t be enough.
2. Chlorine in water will evaporate after a few hours. Just leave it in a filter or jug in your fridge overnight.
3. Though Nalgene bottles are BPA-free, they’ve been found to leech other chemicals. Use glass bottles to be 100% safe.
4. Avoid anti-bacterial soap. Residue on dishes and hands gets in the stomach and kills your “good bacteria.”
5. Cooking with coconut oil is better than olive oil. It has more Omega-3s and doesn’t oxidize in sunlight or high temperatures.
6. Tom’s toothpaste is a great alternative to traditional toothpaste. It’s fluoride free and avoids many additive chemicals.
7. Setting up a vertical garden takes a week or two, but can pay off in organic produce for years.
8. Coconut or almond based ice cream is a fantastic way to indulge, without eating dairy.
9. Most organic eggs come from cooped up chickens fed organic produce. For true free range eggs, find a local farmer on localharvest.org.
10. “Organically made” is not the same as “Organic.” “Freely Traded” is not the same as “Free Trade.” Those former foods aren’t certified.
11. Avoid cheap vegetable oils at all costs. They’re high in Omega-6 and very unhealthy.
12. Most “grass fed” beef are still grain finished. For 100% grass fed beef, look for a local farm you can buy from.
13. Most fruits have quite a high glycemic index. The exception are berries (including strawberries) which are low GI and very healthy.
14. Think you can’t afford organic? Buy foods that are in season. It’s both more inexpensive and healthier.
15. Have a favorite seasonal food? Buy it when it’s in season, then freeze it. It’s healthier than buying it out of season.
16. Avoid large fish like tuna. Large fish eat small fish and build up higher concentrations of mercury.
17. Avoid multi-vitamins. Instead, build your own vitamin stack. Most multi-vitamins skimp on the important nutrients.
18. Consider supplementing Omega-3s. It’s perhaps the most important supplement of all for the health conscious.
19. Look up and remember when your local farmer’s markets are. They’re cheaper, and you can ask directly about how the food was grown.
20. Buy green cleaning products to avoid chemicals like ammonia or chlorine in your house.
21. Not all food has to be labeled “Organic” to be healthy. If you’re buying directly from the farmer, ask how it was made.
22. Sign up for your local fruit or veggie boxes. Farmers will deliver fresh organic produce straight to your door.
23. See if there are food co-ops near you. These co-ops grow organic food and sell it to their local markets.
24. Carrots, beets and radishes are very easy to grow. If you want to give growing a shot, that’s a good place to start.
25. Try to eat as much of your produce raw as possible. Cooking destroys enzymes and can reduce vitamin content by 12x.
26. Soak produce in 1/3rd vinegar and 2/3rds water to kill bacteria, if eating it raw.
27. Check the OCA’s website to buy organic foods online - organicconsumers.org
28. Trader Joe’s is a great, lower-cost alternative to Whole Foods. Do you shop there?
29. Subscribe to health coupon sites for deals.  
30. Look for “specials” in supermarkets (including Whole Foods.) These mean the food’s in season and affordable.
31. Organic beans are a great source of protein. Make sure you cook them thoroughly, as semi-cooked beans are toxic.
32. Quinoa is a complete amino acid and provides your body with all the proteins you need. Yummy and easy to cook, too!
33. Buy your organic chickens whole. It’s cheaper than buying by the part, and you can use the carcass to make broth.
34. Most coffee shops (including Starbucks) sell Fair Trade but not organic coffee. Organic coffee is available online or in Whole Foods.
35. Use the bulk isle. You can buy everything from beans to quinoa to nuts while saving money and saving packaging.
36. You can order organic snack bars in bulk, affordably at Amazon.com. It’s as much as 50% cheaper than buying at the store.
37. Never eat the skin of non-organic papayas or mangos. Some are dipped in toxic pesticides when they cross the border.
38. When buying seeds, make sure you’re buying non-GMO. If it doesn’t say it’s non-GMO, don’t assume that it is.
39. Make your jams at home. Most commercial jams (even organic) like peanut butter jam or strawberry jam are high in sugar.
40. Agave nectar isn’t much healthier than traditional sugar. Organic honey is better, while organic coconut sugar is best.
41. Store your olive oil in a dry place, outside of sunlight. Oxidized olive oil is very dangerous.
42. Nut milks in supermarkets contain a lot of additive ingredients. For best results, make your own. It only takes 10 mins.
43. Nuts can be healthy snacks, but they’re also very high in fat and calories. Enjoy them, but eat in moderation.
44. Bananas are high GI and low in nutritional value. Plantains are low GI and much healthier. But they need to be cooked.
45. Add a few Brazil nuts to your diet. It’s one of the few foods high in selenium, which is good for your hormones and your thyroid.
46. Buy good salt. Good salt can add dozens of minerals to your diet. One jar of Himalayan sea salt can last a year.
47. Avoid Teflon. If you must cook with Teflon, never ever place metal into the pan.
48. Rice has very little nutritional value, but isn’t unhealthy either. Use sparingly.
49. Don’t forget about eBay. You can find great deals for organic foods at steep discounts!
50. Stay to the end of Farmer’s Markets. They’ll often give out last minute deals to clear out inventory.
51. Put paper towels on the edges of your fridge’s veggie drawer. It’ll draw the moisture and preserve your greens.
52. Spinach wilted? As long as it doesn’t don’t smell, you can still cook it and it will be just as good.
53. Check Meetup.com for organic potlucks and meetups. They can be a fun way to add variety to your diet!

20 Tips For Choosing Healthy Fats In Your Diet

For the past few decades, we’ve heard all about the virtues of a low-fat diet and the dangers of dietary fat and cholesterol.

But with the number of overweight and obese people climbing every day and statin drugs for lowering cholesterol the most commonly prescribed medications in the world, researchers have recently reviewed the low fat trend. Emerging research has shown that there is such a thing as healthy fat which can increase your good cholesterol (HDL cholesterol-think H for healthy) and decrease your bad cholesterol (LDL cholesterol-think L for lousy). 

But with so many so-called healthy oils and butter substitutes on the market, how do decide what’s best to buy?

Here are 29 tips for choosing healthy fats in your diet:

1.    Choose plant-based oils such as olive oil, or peanut oil if you are not allergic to nuts.  Plant based oils will not contain cholesterol as compared with animal-based oils such as butter.

2.    Choose monounsaturated and polyunsaturated fats. Mono means 1 and poly means more than 1.  These fats are most easily used by the body for a range of important functions and are healthier for you than saturated fats. These will help you feel full and make it less likely that you will eat saturated fats from animal products, such as butter and lard.

3.    Go Mediterranean. The Mediterranean diet has been shown to be heart healthy due to the proportion of olive oil used as dressing and cooking oil. Olive oil is actually higher in calories than butter but contains no cholesterol.

4.    Choose natural oils, not ‘lite’ or ‘light’ ones. Some people find the taste of olive oil a bit overwhelming, such as that of Extra Virgin Olive Oil, or EVOO.  There are different grades of olive oil you can try until you find one that suits your palate. Avoid oils labeled lite or light, however, because those words do not usually refer to the color of the oil, but the fact that is has been blended with another type of oil, one potentially less healthy for you.

5.    Eat olives. These tasty little foods are the origins of olive oil, so you can get all the benefits of the oil plus a tasty snack for only a few calories per portion. Rinse off the salt water they are usually packed in to make them healthier, and enjoy!

6.    Substitute olive oil for butter in a range of recipes.  Use it as a spread on bread and for cooking and frying. If you miss buttercream frosting on your cake, try a simple glaze of water and powdered sugar instead, with a dash of olive oil for body and texture.

7.    Eat avocados.  These tasty fruits contain a range of heart-healthy fats 75% monounsaturated and 25% polyunsaturated.They are versatile and can be used in sandwiches, salads, Mexican and Tex-Mex meals, and more.

8.    Use guacamole instead of mayo in your sandwiches.  Make your own guacamole by mashing fresh avocado with some fresh tomatoes cut into cubes and a squirt of lemon or lime juice. Use your guacamole as you would mayonnaise, on turkey sandwiches, with your tuna salad, and more. Be careful of commercially prepared guacamole, however, as it can often contain unhealthy fats. In fact, some actually contain very little avocado. If you must buy it, be sure to read the label to make sure avocado is listed as the first ingredient.

9.    Eat nuts in moderation if you are not allergic. Studies have shown that those who eat 1 ounce of nuts each day have an easier time losing weight and keeping it off.  Nuts are not only rich in healthy fats and certain vitamins and enzymes, their fiber makes you feel fuller and aids in digestion.

10.    Try walnuts in your oatmeal each morning. Studies have shown that 8 walnuts a day can help lower you cholesterol naturally. A bowl of oatmeal made with quick oats, water and a dash of cinnamon can help lower it even more.

11.    Switch to peanut oil.  Peanut oil is a monounsaturated fat, which means it is a simple fat easily digested and used by the body. It increases healthy cholesterol in the body and is great for your skin and your memory.  It works well in Asian-style dishes.

12.    Cook at home using healthy oils so you can steer clear of artery-clogging trans fats.  Healthy oils like peanut, olive and coconut oil give foods a rich flavor compared with the trans fats in store-bought cookies, cakes and other packaged convenience foods.  Trans fats are created by pumping hydrogenmolecules into a range of (usually cheap and unhealthy) oils to make them solid and therefore less likely to spoil as the products they are made with sit on store shelves.  Trans fats are damaging to heart health and should be avoided as much as possible.

13.    Add coconut oil to your diet in moderation. Coconut oil is a saturated fat, but studies have shown it is processed by the body differently than animal-based saturated fats.  Coconut oil has been shown to offer a range of healing properties and can improve your digestive health. It is usually solid at room temperature but becomes liquid on warm days.

14.    Use coconut oil in a wide range of tasty recipes, even if you are not fond of the flavor. Coconut oil is versatile and can be used in most forms of cooking and baking; however, some people find the taste too strong or overwhelming in subtly seasoned recipes.  If you do not want the strong taste of coconut to be obvious in your dishes, use expeller-pressed or deodorized coconut oil.

15.    Use butter in moderation. Butter contains a range of vitamins and nutrients, including Omega-3 fatty acids, which can be good for heart health. Butter does also contain cholesterol, true, but also offers a range of health benefits, such as helping you feel full for longer and boosting your metabolism.

16.    Use sunflower oil. It has the highest concentration of monounsaturated fats of all the oils available, according to the nutrition database at Self magazine.

17.    Eat macadamia nuts if you can afford them. They are delicious, with a rich, creamy taste and rich in monounsaturated fats and fiber. The only downside is they can be costly; look for bargains in your local warehouse club.

18.    Explore nut-based oils.  We have already discussed peanut oil, but there are several other nut-based oils high in monounsaturated fats that are worth experimenting with, including hazelnut (also known as filbert), macadamia and almond.

19.    Use soybean oil in moderation. It is polyunsaturated and high in Omega-3 fatty acids. It is versatile enough to be used in a range of recipes, from frying to homemade salad dressings. However, note that some people are allergic to soy. The jury is also still out for some researchers as to how much soy should be eaten every day as part of a healthy diet.

20.    Eat more tofu. Soybeans have the highest amount of protein of any member of the bean family, with a low percentage of fat, making it an excellent substitute for meat in your cooking. Try a stir-fry using sesame oil to get the flavor of a Chinese restaurant with none of the hidden dangers found in many prepackaged foods.

Some researchers express concern at eating too much soy, especially genetically modified soy.

 Look for organic tofu if you are concerned about GMO foods and cook more from scratch if you are worried about soy being added to many prepackaged foods as a thickener and source of protein.