15 Ways To Gain Self Confidence As A Shy Person

 

  1. Decide To Be Confident - For no reason at all, just choose it. Simply be confident. “I choose to feel confident today.”
  2. Remind Yourself Of Your Achievements - You already have done so much in life, but where is your list? What do you feel proud for?
  3. Be Grateful - Take your confidence from what you have, not what you do not have. Appreciate everything in your life right now.
  4. Break Limitations - Find a fear, an old belief, or something that holds you back that does not hold your confident idols back; then fight that limitation.
  5. Adopt New Beliefs - What could you believe instead that would empower you? Prove and foster that belief.
  6. Challenge Yourself - Do more than you think you are capable of doing so you push yourself as far as you can, not just as far as you are comfortable. You can do more than you think you can.
  7. Do Everything - Work on every area of life, for otherwise you will compare your worst to others best. Health, Fitness, Money, Relationships, Self-Growth, Career, Meaning, Fulfillment, Emotions, Purpose. Increase them all.
  8. Spend Money On Yourself - Give yourself some presents that you actually enjoy, not just useful things. Fill your life with desirable experiences and spend money on things that challenge you or touch on any of the other points.
  9. Step Outside Your Comfort Zone - Do something that pushes you outside that comfort zone once a week. The further outside you step the faster you will grow.
  10. Realize No One Cares - At the end of the day, the only one that cares about how confident you are is you. No one else’s life will be different, so make a choice for yourself to be confident.
  11. Better Your Body Language - Stand up tall and straight, sit taking up as much space as possible and walk with purpose. Do what you think a confident person would do.
  12. Change The Narrative - Change the kind of things you say about yourself and make them empower you. You are confident, strong, certain and have the proof for it already, just look for it.
  13. Overcommit & Overdeliver - Go above and beyond every time you can. Overdeliver to those that you do not want to disappoint and then overdeliver on that promise. Take this with double the seriousness when they are commitments to yourself.
  14. Start Finding Similarities - Look at your heroes and idols and find the things you share in common with them rather than what sets you apart. You’ll see you are closer than you think.
  15. Create Meaning - What makes life meaningful or worth living to you? Ask yourself who those people are that lead meaningful lives and then do what they do. Spend your time creating meaning and value and everything else will fall to the wayside.

13 Psychology Ideas About Girls

1:—Girls don’t love easily and once they love they can go to any extent to own their love. Note this!

2:-A girl won't find anything to hate about a guy she loves.

3:-Guys have no idea how long something they said can stay in a girl's mind.

4:-Girls daydream about their crushes all the time. He will always be on her mind. They just don't show it.

5:-If a boy continuously calls in every two, three hours then the girl gets irritated. This is the main reason of break ups.

6:-Do not gift too early in your relationships. You will lose your dignity. Most of the girls find it awkward.

7:-Girls are experts in reading eyes and body gestures. A decent girl will never fall prey.

8:-Girls mostly respect the boys who help in studies and clearing the doubts. They remain genuine as friends all the time.

9:-Girls love to be praised in front of others not in one corner. This shows your lack of confidence. There is nothing wrong in praising in public.

10:-When someone tells her that she is pretty, she will believe it for a minute. But when tells her that she is ugly, she will never forget it.

11:-If a girl easily accepts your expensive gifts then, think twice before dating her .

12:-If a girl teases you and gives you nicknames, she is usually attracted to you and sees you as more than a friend.

13:-Girls judge so quickly. But their judgement rarely goes wrong.

Thanks for reading!

5 Important Things To Learn In Your 30s

The top 5 things I learned in my late 20s/early 30s:

  1. People evolve based on their life experiences, circumstances and choices. It’s okay to let go of friendships that no longer make sense, and, to forge new bonds. The memories will always be precious; it’s alright to grow apart and want different things from life.
  2. Everyone has their own insecurities. Even the best of the best; especially them. What sets them apart is that they show up every day despite these. Just because something seems scary or difficult is no reason to not do it.
  3. The reason why most conversations lack authenticity is that people mistake being vulnerable for being weak. We fear judgement and are terrified that someone might think less of us; what we don’t realize that people were never thinking of us to begin with and it was all in our head.
  4. People in their 20s want to to get married because they have only seen weddings. People in their 30s don’t, because they have seen marriages. There is a huge difference between the party and the forever-after. (Credits to Rohan Joshi for this observation)
  5. You can sum up your life in terms of wealth, job titles, authority, fame, love, faith and about a dozen other things. However, at the end of the day, the only metric that truly matters is that “you measure yourself by the people who measure themselves by you”. (The Bucket List)

10 Ways To Be More Self Aware


  1. Respond vs React: This is very hard but very rewarding. If a conversation or event triggers a reaction, stop! it’s the hardest thing to do, but pause and think where your reaction is coming from, then respond.
  2. Projection: If you can catch what flaws you project on to others, you are half way there. If you pay attention, you will catch others projecting and you will never take anything personally.
  3. Relationships: They can be intimate or just friendships. We learn about ourselves through interactions with others.
  4. Constructive Criticism: Take it! You don’t have to agree with any criticism, but be open minded and be welcoming of it. It IS the best teacher, and can be the most painful.
  5. Ego: Leave it at the door. Your ego is not your amigo.
  6. Character Defects: Sounds morbid, right? Make a list. What are parts of you that you want to improve? Not for others, but you?
  7. Reflection: Look at your past. Where, why and what went wrong? And how do you fix it?
  8. Stay Present: All we have is right now. Getting ahead of yourself creates worry. We have no control of the past, and very little control of the future.
  9. Control: We can’t control people, places nor things. What can we control? OUR, thoughts, actions and reactions. Your mind can be your enemy or friend.
  10. Higher power: When life has got you down and you are at a loss, turn it over to someone else. That’s, true awareness. Being, aware enough to know, there’s something greater than us, is a relief. Try it, it works. Let shit go.

22 Things Not To Do That May Be Holding you Back

 

  1. Do Not Go The ‘Safe’ Route. Most people choose the safe path instead of the one they want to walk. Ironically, most people also end up unhappy with their life.
  2. Do Not Listen to People Telling You You Cannot Do It. Most people will not believe you until you show them hard on proof. Ignoring those people is the best thing you can do.
  3. Do Not Stay Around Negative People. Both negativity and positivity will leak through the other person into you. Be careful what you absorb.
  4. Do Not Be Afraid to Fail. Failure is part of the process. At the end you can fail a million times as long as you succeed once.
  5. Do Not Give In to Your Limitations. Test your limits as often as you can to see if they are still limits or just limiting beliefs.
  6. Do Not Make False Promises, Especially Not to Yourself. Do what you say you will do, no matter what it takes; do not cheat yourself out of having a trustworthy ally in yourself.
  7. Do Not Manage Time. Managing time is a load of work, instead control your time. What do you think would be more work: managing the world or controlling the world?
  8. Do Not Eat Junk Food. You know what is good and bad for you, do not give in to the temptations at the cost of your future.
  9. Do Not Get Addicted to TV or Video Games. The average person spends 4 hours a day in front of the TV… Think about what difference an extra 1460 hours a year could do for your life.
  10. Do Not Forget to Read. The average person reads 1 Book a year. The average successful person reads 1 Book a week; you do the math.
  11. Do Not Lie. Lying causes so much more problems than just telling the truth. Telling the truth may be uncomfortable sometimes, but it makes you a much stronger person in the long run.
  12. Do Not Deny Anyone Their Belief. Even if you do not believe it that doesn’t mean that that belief isn’t real for them. Accept that everyone has different beliefs.
  13. Do Not Be Afraid to Say ‘No’. If you do not want to, do not have the time, or do not feel like it, then just say ‘No’. Take responsibility for yourself by making an active choice.
  14. Do Not Believe That Anything Is “Impossible”. The “impossible” is being done every day. It was impossible to land on the moon, impossible to climb Mt. Everest, impossible to run a 4-minute-mile, impossible to fly, and yet here we are, doing it all.
  15. Do Not Have a Plan B. If you have a plan B, then you will not try your very hardest for Plan A. People who succeed despite all odds believe that it is “do or die” every time.
  16. Do Not Stay In One Place. The world is vast and there are so many things to learn. Most people that reach depression have lived in one place their entire lives.
  17. Do Not Eat The Same Foods. Make it a habit to eat something new every time you go out to eat. Sure, there will be some flukes, but you will also discover your favorite foods that way.
  18. Do Not Limit Your Work. You can do more than you think you can and should do as much as possible. Not for your boss, but for you.
  19. Do Not Compare Yourself To Anyone But Your Past Self. There will always be someone better and worse than you. Stop comparing yourself to those people and instead compare yourself to who you were a year ago only.
  20. Do Not Settle For Less. You only settle if you think you cannot achieve it, and that is the same as giving up. If you do not settle you will, eventually, get it.
  21. Do Not Give Up On Things You Want. Ever. The only way to truly fail is to give up. If you never give up failure becomes a stepping stone not the end result.
  22. Do Not Limit Your Dreams. You want it, then ask for it and go and get it. It’s impossible you say? GREAT! Be the first one to do it! Anything is possible. Dream as big as you can, never give up on those dreams and never settle. Find a way where there is no way!

Things Not To Do Online And Things To Understand About Life

 

  1. Don’t advertise your happy marriage on social media. You could attract the wrath of a jealous ex-turned-villain.
  2. Don’t post your private family photos all over the internet. Someone could use them to ruin the lives of your loved ones.
  3. Don’t discuss your private matters on social media. You don’t know who is reading or listening.
  4. Don’t befriend everybody who requests to be friends with you on social media. Cyber-stalkers have ruined privacy and the reputation of the internet.
  5. Don’t store your passwords or security credentials online. The database could be hacked.
  6. Don’t fall in love with anyone on social media. They could easily be predators prowling on you.
  7. Don’t advertise your pregnancy on social media. A deranged lunatic could do the unthinkable and trigger a miscarriage.
  8. Don’t advertise your kids' achievements on social media. Malicious people could ruin their lives.
  9. Don’t advertise your expensive buys on social media. You could attract thieves or even robbers.
  10. Never share any compromising photos on social media. They’ll definitely be shared all over the internet.

UNDERSTAND THIS ABOUT LIFE…

  1. Not everyone is going to be happy for you.
  2. Most of the “nice” comments you get on social media are fake.
  3. You are just attracting the evil eye on you and your family.
  4. There are people who just hate you for no apparent reason.
  5. People are not what they seem like. The internet has been infiltrated by cyber-stalkers who could be your ex or your next-door neighbor.
  6. Up to 50% of social media accounts could be fake according to some statistics.
  7. You are just attracting jealous people into your life every day you look attractive.
  8. You don’t know who is saving your pictures and checking your updates.
  9. Social media is sometimes the devil’s eye, ears, and mouth.
  10. The more you expose yourself publicly online, the more you are treading on dangerous grounds since this could attract evil people who could ruin your life, family, marriage, and career.

15 Wise Lessons Of Life


  1. Life doesn’t always go your way.
  2. You can not change someone. Move on.
  3. It doesn’t get better, but we as people have to learn to deal with it in a mature and healthy manner.
  4. Once you have found your passion, money won’t be the priority for that job.
  5. Never give yourself over to things that will screw you over, your much more worthy than you think you are.
  6. Free falling in your own world is a great imaginative way of living happy.
  7. It’s okay to live in your fantasy for a bit, but remember that reality is our world. We can’t abandon it.
  8. People come and go, you have to get used to it.
  9. The moment you learn to cope with your emotions wisely and maturely, life will get easier, not better, but easier.
  10. Nothing matters anymore when you found the thing you love the most.
  11. Its a bad day, not a bad life.
  12. One day at a time, you got this.
  13. Don’t abandon the things you think don’t matter, you’d be surprised how the littlest things can make the biggest changes in your life.
  14. Fame and popularity fade away once you turn 18.
  15. Money can buy materialistic things that make you happy, but it doesn’t buy happiness.

8 Uncomfortable Truths About Being A Man

 

  1. You lose 99% of your close friends if you start upgrading your life.
  2. You become more mature when you train yourself to take nothing personally.
  3. A salary is the drug your employer gives you to forget your dreams.
  4. If you continue to wait for the "right time", you’ll waste your entire life and nothing will happen.
  5. Even when you trust your close friends and family, let them know nothing about you.
  6. Government and politicians are one giant scum that'll never save you from your problems.
  7. You'll be 10x happier if you forgive your parents and stop blaming them for your problems.
  8. Train yourself to let people win arguments on purpose to conserve your mental health.

10 Strange Facts About Human Behavior That Will Surprise You

1. People walk slower when they are happy and faster when they are anxious or under emotional pressure

2. You naturally trust people more when you first meet them in a warm room than in a cold one
3. Humans are the only animals that cry emotional tears and scientists still do not fully understand why we do it
4. People who swear more frequently are on average more honest and straightforward than those who avoid it completely
5. You are significantly more creative at night when you are tired because your brain filters less and connects more freely
6. Holding a warm drink while talking to someone makes you perceive them as a warmer and kinder person subconsciously
7. People who talk to themselves while working perform tasks better and make fewer mistakes than those who stay silent
8. You make better decisions on a full bladder because the same self control muscle is used for both simultaneously
9. People tip more generously on sunny days than on cloudy ones regardless of the quality of the service they received
10. Humans naturally synchronize their footsteps when walking side by side without either person being aware it is happening

7 Unwritten Social Rules To Know

 01. When playing games with children, let them win.


02. Compliment the meal when you're a guest in someone's home.


03. When someone treats you to lunch or dinner, don't order the most expensive dish in the menu. Also, treat them the next time.


04. Step outside to answer phone calls.


05. If someone shows you a photo on their phone, don't swipe left or right. If they want to show what's next, they'll do it.


06. If in a fight, hit first and hit hard.


07. If you're about to leave a bench, but if another person sits next to you; wait few extra minutes before leaving, so you don't hurt that person's feelings.

13 Good Foods For The Body Fruits

 1. Eggs are good for the brain.


2. Water is good for the kidneys. 


3. Cabbage is good for the liver.


4. Cucumber is good for the skin.


5. Oranges are good for the colon.


6. Carrots are good for the eyes.


7. Ginger is good for the lungs.


8. Avocado is good for the heart.


9. Fresh tomatoes is good for the prostate.


10. Red bell pepper is good for the lungs.


11. Green beans is good for the bones.


12. Exercise is good for your overall health.


13. Watermelon is good for erection.

9 Health Tips To Begin The Month

 Don't Forget Doctors... ..... But Use These Tricks As Well:

1. Drink warm water before meals — boosts digestion and detoxifies your gut.
2. Sleep before 11 PM — heals your brain and balances hormones.
3. Walk for 30 minutes daily — strengthens your heart, brain, and bones.
4. Sit in the sun for 15 minutes — natural Vitamin D strengthens immunity.
5. Eat slowly and chew properly — improves digestion and prevents overeating.
6. Avoid using your phone for 1 hour after waking — keeps your mind calm and focused.
7. Eat one fruit on an empty stomach — cleanses your system and energizes you.
8. Practice deep breathing for 5 minutes — reduces stress, anxiety, and blood pressure.
9. Keep your gut clean — your gut controls your mood, skin, and immunity.


Happy New Month.

10 Things Most People Learn Too Late In Life


  1. A lot is mental. Meaning we all create our reality whether we’d like to or not. All the decisions we make stick and lead us down a certain path. It’s true when they say 99% of your life is going to be about how you react to it.
  2. It’s important to stay kind, forgiving and respectful. These are qualities one needs to maintain and cultivate.
  3. Self-sabotage is as bad as being toxic. Respect yourself. Learn to be yourself at all times.
  4. Try to build upward spirals every day. Meaning try to be good and do good every day. This will create little spirals of goodness which end up gifting us beautiful lives, and benefits everyone.
  5. What matters most is inner peace. Inner peace is joy and can be found within us at all times.
  6. Stay simple and realistic but don’t lose your drive to want to be a better version of yourself.
  7. Acceptance is hard but is what one ought to do.
  8. Not all people are going to have your best interests at heart and that is okay. Learn to co-exist with all kinds of people. Don’t burn bridges.
  9. Care for yourself like you would care for a child. Befriend yourself. If you’re happy with who you are you will have 99% figured out.
  10. Sometimes things will not go as planned. It’s not so much about the plan but about the results. So, if anything happens, stay grounded and life will show you the way.

Psychological Tricks And Hacks That Are Useful To Know

 1. Our mind has the ability to detect and sense danger. If your gut tells you something is wrong, never ignore that feeling.

2. Alarm clocks don't necessarily wake you up, they startle you, causing a panic that interrupts your sleep state, which isn't healthy.

3. A person usually makes a lot of hand gestures when telling a true story. When they lie, a person's hands will stay noticeably still.

4.  The human mind can only maintain complete trust once for each person. Once broken, it's never the same.

5. If someone makes eye contact with you for 60% of a conversation, they're bored, 80% and they are attracted to you, and 100% of the time, then they are threatening you.

6. Overthinking is a special form of fear. This fear becomes worse when adding anticipation, memory, imagination and emotions together.

7. When you try to remember a past event, you're actually remembering the last time you remembered it, rather than the event itself.



6 Tips To Become An Extraordinary Person

1. Workout:

You can automatically look sexier than 80% of the population by hitting the gym and eating clean.

2. Mean It:

Do what you said you were going to do! Accomplish your goals; people pay attention.

3. Don't give a Whoot!:

When you don't care or react to Nonsense, people get scared. They realize they have no control over your emotions.

4. Create Solutions:

Too many people complain. Create a monetizable solution and sell it. Laugh in the faces of the complainers.

5. Control Your Actions and Reactions:

Some things you can't control, but you can always control how you react to them.

6. Read books related to human psychology, manipulation, how the human mind works, etc.

Stop Trying to Manage Your Time by Amantha Imber

Twenty-twenty was quite the year for us all, but for Adore Beauty co-founder Kate Morris, work was particularly stressful. Not only was she managing one of the largest online retail businesses in Australia through a pandemic, but she was also preparing to list her company on the Australian Stock Exchange.

“I remember looking at the schedule our bankers had created,” Morris told me. “I said to them, ‘There must be a mistake because you have me on back-to-back Zoom calls for 12 hours every day for weeks.’ They just nodded and said it was a standard roadshow.”

Morris knew then that the key to making it through this period with her mental health intact would be managing her energy — her time was already spoken for.

Her business coach advised her to return to her purpose. What did she really want to achieve with this IPO? The answer was clear: She wanted it to be the largest ever IPO in Australia led by a female founder and a female CEO. For Morris, it was about making history.

Morris’ coach encouraged her to write this down in a place where she could see it loud and clear. “I put it on a sticky note on the bottom of my computer monitor since I was going to be staring at it for 12 hours a day. The sticky note said: Making history.”

Even when she was delivering the exact same presentation for the nth time on a given day, seeing those words reminded Morris why she was doing it. “It helped me make every presentation fresh — like I was giving it for the first time.”

This is just one of the many energy management tips I’ve learned while interviewing people for my podcast: If you feel like you’re flailing, connect in with your purpose. This might be your overall career purpose (why you have chosen the profession that you are in) or a micro purpose (what is motivating you to do a great job on a project or task). But don’t stop there. Write down your purpose and keep it on your desk to act as a constant visual reminder of why you do what you do, especially when things are exhausting or stressful.

That note may give you boost you need to get through the day.

If you want a few more tips, here are more tokens of advice that I’ve learned from my guests to help you spring back up when your energy is low.

Create a “wall of encouragement.”
Despite having competed in several marathons and ironman competitions over the course of her life, Fulbright scholar, writer, and CEO Holly Ransom spends a lot of time sitting at her desk. For someone used to running many miles each week, the stagnation is agonizing. To help manage her restless energy over the course of the pandemic, during which she spent over 250 days in lockdown in Melbourne, Ransom created a wall of encouragement.

In her home office, Ransom lined the windowsill with cards that the most important people in her life have sent her over the years. “They have messages of support. There are probably a couple of times a week when I inadvertently read one or two, but sometimes I’ll do it intentionally.”

For Ransom, the cards remind her of why she does what she does every day. They re-energize her when she’s feeling drained and help her overcome something we all deal with: negativity bias — our propensity to place more emphasis on negative information than positive. Humans are basically suckers for punishment, and when we experience setbacks or receive negative feedback at work, it has a big impact on our energy levels.

In your own workspace, think about how you can create a wall of encouragement. It might be physical, like Ransom’s, or it might be digital, like a folder on your desktop that contains encouraging emails, awards, positive feedback, or even memes that make you laugh. Social scientists have found that inducing a positive mood has many benefits, including improved well-being and general happiness.

Remove recurring irritants.
In his bestselling book Upstream, Dan Heath wrote about a regular annoyance that used to happen in his life. Heath spends a lot of time writing in cafes and a part of this ritual involves fishing his power cord out of his bag, plugging it into the wall, and then, when he returns to his office, digging the power cord out again, plugging it into the wall again, and so on.

“I’ve got a hundred cords around my desk. So, it’s always just a little bit of a nuisance. But it just seemed like one of those things — that’s the way it had to be,” he said.

In the process of writing Upstream, Heath began thinking about how to better solve problems by targeting their root cause. It suddenly occurred to him that he could save himself time and frustrated energy just by buying a second power cord to live in his laptop bag and keeping the original cord at his office.

The solution was so simple. Why did it take writing a book on problem solving to figure it out?

Heath told me it’s because of a force called tunnelling, coined by Eldar Shafir and Sendhil Mullainathan. When we have limited cognitive resources (or brain power) due to life stresses, we adopt tunnel vision and miss opportunities to identify and solve problems. Particularly when we are dealing with one or two big issues (like a global pandemic), our brain power diminishes and we have less mental capacity to deal with other things.

In the context of the power cord problem, we can look at it like this: When we are facing several big problems in our lives, we ironically don’t have the capacity to solve the little one. As a result, we tend to engage in short-term, reactive thinking.

To escape the trap of tunnelling, give yourself some slack, in the form of time or resources. For example, is there a simple process that you find yourself executing regularly (budgeting, paying bills) that could be automated using software? Are there standard emails that you find yourself writing again and again that you could create a template for?

All of these small tasks eat away at your energy. Finding and eliminating these recurring irritants will help free up the time and resources you need to deal with the bigger things in your life.

Create a “To Don’t” list.
Rachel Botsman is a world-renowned expert on trust and technology and a Trust Fellow at Oxford University. Prior to the pandemic, Botsman had written an annual “to-don’t” list for several years. The purpose of the list was to reflect on things she wanted to do differently. But during her first Covid lockdown, she made this ritual monthly.

“So much of our lives are programmed to ‘add’ tasks and commitments,” Botsman told me. “We’re not taught how to subtract or take things away.”

To overcome the feeling of the never-ending to-do list, Botsman has an ongoing appointment with herself on the last Friday of every month where she sets aside time to consider what she wants to stop doing in her work.

“I give myself a full hour to think about it and reflect on the last month’s list. What did I keep? What did I find hard? Why? What is a pattern I can break?” This process has made Botsman more mindful about where she puts her energy and helps her focus on the work that matters most.

When thinking about your “to don’t” list, consider the things you’re currently doing that are sucking your energy up. There might be certain people that you decide not to see, certain habits that you want to break, or projects that are no longer serving your growth at work. Sadly, there may also be a few items that you want to drop but can’t at this stage in your career. As such, focus on the things that are in your control.


With the rising demands of our workplaces and the endless things that have to get done, we may not always be able to manage our time. Time is a finite resource and it can’t be flexed. But energy is not. Use the strategies highlighted above to protect your well-being and give yourself the spark you need when you’re feeling down.



9 Best Habits Or Activities To Practice At Night


  1. Brushing your teeth and practicing night skincare routine if you have one.
  2. Wishing good night to every family member and giving them a hug before bed.
  3. Preparing a to-do list for the next day in advance.
  4. Setting an alarm and keeping it far away from your reach to make sure that you wake up on time in the morning.
  5. Practicing meditation or 15 minutes yoga for relaxation.
  6. Positive Affirmations.
  7. Writing in your journal about your day or emotions that is troubling you.
  8. Drinking 1 glass of water before bed.
  9. Walking for 10–15 minutes after having a proper healthy dinner.

16 Behaviors Of A Confident Person

1. He will always talk his mind.

2.Never shy away from making eye-contact

3.Great go-getter

4. He has clear idea about what he is doing. 

5.He talks with needed conviction

6.Never falls for small talks

7.Always motivates people around him.

8.Proactive in anything he does. 

9.He has a great convincing ability

10.He can deal with any given situation logically. 

11.His body language will make him dependable to others. 

12. He is not influenced by what others are thinking around him. He will always follow what he feels to be appropriate to do. 

13. He takes his responsibilities seriously and completes those with perfection. 

14. Glass is always half full to him. 

15. Always working on betterment of his own self rather than wasting times on trivial matters. 

16. Always carries a smiling face.

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