15 Ways To Gain Self Confidence As A Shy Person

 

1. Decide To Be Confident - For no reason at all, just choose it. Simply be confident. “I choose to feel confident today.”
2. Remind Yourself Of Your Achievements - You already have done so much in life, but where is your list? What do you feel proud for?
3. Be Grateful - Take your confidence from what you have, not what you do not have. Appreciate everything in your life right now.
4. Break Limitations - Find a fear, an old belief, or something that holds you back that does not hold your confident idols back; then fight that limitation.
5. Adopt New Beliefs - What could you believe instead that would empower you? Prove and foster that belief.
6. Challenge Yourself - Do more than you think you are capable of doing so you push yourself as far as you can, not just as far as you are comfortable. You can do more than you think you can.
7. Do Everything - Work on every area of life, for otherwise you will compare your worst to others best. Health, Fitness, Money, Relationships, Self-Growth, Career, Meaning, Fulfillment, Emotions, Purpose. Increase them all.
8. Spend Money On Yourself - Give yourself some presents that you actually enjoy, not just useful things. Fill your life with desirable experiences and spend money on things that challenge you or touch on any of the other points.
9. Step Outside Your Comfort Zone - Do something that pushes you outside that comfort zone once a week. The further outside you step the faster you will grow.
10. Realize No One Cares - At the end of the day, the only one that cares about how confident you are is you. No one else’s life will be different, so make a choice for yourself to be confident.
11. Better Your Body Language - Stand up tall and straight, sit taking up as much space as possible and walk with purpose. Do what you think a confident person would do.
12. Change The Narrative - Change the kind of things you say about yourself and make them empower you. You are confident, strong, certain and have the proof for it already, just look for it.
13. Overcommit & Overdeliver - Go above and beyond every time you can. Overdeliver to those that you do not want to disappoint and then overdeliver on that promise. Take this with double the seriousness when they are commitments to yourself.
14. Start Finding Similarities - Look at your heroes and idols and find the things you share in common with them rather than what sets you apart. You’ll see you are closer than you think.
15. Create Meaning - What makes life meaningful or worth living to you? Ask yourself who those people are that lead meaningful lives and then do what they do. Spend your time creating meaning and value and everything else will fall to the wayside.

13 Psychology Ideas About Girls

1:—Girls don’t love easily and once they love they can go to any extent to own their love. Note this!

2:-A girl won't find anything to hate about a guy she loves.

3:-Guys have no idea how long something they said can stay in a girl's mind.

4:-Girls daydream about their crushes all the time. He will always be on her mind. They just don't show it.

5:-If a boy continuously calls in every two, three hours then the girl gets irritated. This is the main reason of break ups.

6:-Do not gift too early in your relationships. You will lose your dignity. Most of the girls find it awkward.

7:-Girls are experts in reading eyes and body gestures. A decent girl will never fall prey.

8:-Girls mostly respect the boys who help in studies and clearing the doubts. They remain genuine as friends all the time.

9:-Girls love to be praised in front of others not in one corner. This shows your lack of confidence. There is nothing wrong in praising in public.

10:-When someone tells her that she is pretty, she will believe it for a minute. But when tells her that she is ugly, she will never forget it.

11:-If a girl easily accepts your expensive gifts then, think twice before dating her .

12:-If a girl teases you and gives you nicknames, she is usually attracted to you and sees you as more than a friend.

13:-Girls judge so quickly. But their judgement rarely goes wrong.

Thanks for reading!

5 Important Things To Learn In Your 30s

The top 5 things I learned in my late 20s/early 30s:

1. People evolve based on their life experiences, circumstances and choices. It’s okay to let go of friendships that no longer make sense, and, to forge new bonds. The memories will always be precious; it’s alright to grow apart and want different things from life.
2. Everyone has their own insecurities. Even the best of the best; especially them. What sets them apart is that they show up every day despite these. Just because something seems scary or difficult is no reason to not do it.
3. The reason why most conversations lack authenticity is that people mistake being vulnerable for being weak. We fear judgement and are terrified that someone might think less of us; what we don’t realize that people were never thinking of us to begin with and it was all in our head.
4. People in their 20s want to to get married because they have only seen weddings. People in their 30s don’t, because they have seen marriages. There is a huge difference between the party and the forever-after. (Credits to Rohan Joshi for this observation)
5. You can sum up your life in terms of wealth, job titles, authority, fame, love, faith and about a dozen other things. However, at the end of the day, the only metric that truly matters is that “you measure yourself by the people who measure themselves by you”. (The Bucket List)

10 Ways To Be More Self Aware

1. Respond vs React: This is very hard but very rewarding. If a conversation or event triggers a reaction, stop! it’s the hardest thing to do, but pause and think where your reaction is coming from, then respond.
2. Projection: If you can catch what flaws you project on to others, you are half way there. If you pay attention, you will catch others projecting and you will never take anything personally.
3. Relationships: They can be intimate or just friendships. We learn about ourselves through interactions with others.
4. Constructive Criticism: Take it! You don’t have to agree with any criticism, but be open minded and be welcoming of it. It IS the best teacher, and can be the most painful.
5. Ego: Leave it at the door. Your ego is not your amigo.
6. Character Defects: Sounds morbid, right? Make a list. What are parts of you that you want to improve? Not for others, but you?
7. Reflection: Look at your past. Where, why and what went wrong? And how do you fix it?
8. Stay Present: All we have is right now. Getting ahead of yourself creates worry. We have no control of the past, and very little control of the future.
9. Control: We can’t control people, places nor things. What can we control? OUR, thoughts, actions and reactions. Your mind can be your enemy or friend.
10. Higher power: When life has got you down and you are at a loss, turn it over to someone else. That’s, true awareness. Being, aware enough to know, there’s something greater than us, is a relief. Try it, it works. Let shit go.

22 Things Not To Do That May Be Holding you Back

 

1. Do Not Go The ‘Safe’ Route. Most people choose the safe path instead of the one they want to walk. Ironically, most people also end up unhappy with their life.
2. Do Not Listen to People Telling You You Cannot Do It. Most people will not believe you until you show them hard on proof. Ignoring those people is the best thing you can do.
3. Do Not Stay Around Negative People. Both negativity and positivity will leak through the other person into you. Be careful what you absorb.
4. Do Not Be Afraid to Fail. Failure is part of the process. At the end you can fail a million times as long as you succeed once.
5. Do Not Give In to Your Limitations. Test your limits as often as you can to see if they are still limits or just limiting beliefs.
6. Do Not Make False Promises, Especially Not to Yourself. Do what you say you will do, no matter what it takes; do not cheat yourself out of having a trustworthy ally in yourself.
7. Do Not Manage Time. Managing time is a load of work, instead control your time. What do you think would be more work: managing the world or controlling the world?
8. Do Not Eat Junk Food. You know what is good and bad for you, do not give in to the temptations at the cost of your future.
9. Do Not Get Addicted to TV or Video Games. The average person spends 4 hours a day in front of the TV… Think about what difference an extra 1460 hours a year could do for your life.
10. Do Not Forget to Read. The average person reads 1 Book a year. The average successful person reads 1 Book a week; you do the math.
11. Do Not Lie. Lying causes so much more problems than just telling the truth. Telling the truth may be uncomfortable sometimes, but it makes you a much stronger person in the long run.
12. Do Not Deny Anyone Their Belief. Even if you do not believe it that doesn’t mean that that belief isn’t real for them. Accept that everyone has different beliefs.
13. Do Not Be Afraid to Say ‘No’. If you do not want to, do not have the time, or do not feel like it, then just say ‘No’. Take responsibility for yourself by making an active choice.
14. Do Not Believe That Anything Is “Impossible”. The “impossible” is being done every day. It was impossible to land on the moon, impossible to climb Mt. Everest, impossible to run a 4-minute-mile, impossible to fly, and yet here we are, doing it all.
15. Do Not Have a Plan B. If you have a plan B, then you will not try your very hardest for Plan A. People who succeed despite all odds believe that it is “do or die” every time.
16. Do Not Stay In One Place. The world is vast and there are so many things to learn. Most people that reach depression have lived in one place their entire lives.
17. Do Not Eat The Same Foods. Make it a habit to eat something new every time you go out to eat. Sure, there will be some flukes, but you will also discover your favorite foods that way.
18. Do Not Limit Your Work. You can do more than you think you can and should do as much as possible. Not for your boss, but for you.
19. Do Not Compare Yourself To Anyone But Your Past Self. There will always be someone better and worse than you. Stop comparing yourself to those people and instead compare yourself to who you were a year ago only.
20. Do Not Settle For Less. You only settle if you think you cannot achieve it, and that is the same as giving up. If you do not settle you will, eventually, get it.
21. Do Not Give Up On Things You Want. Ever. The only way to truly fail is to give up. If you never give up failure becomes a stepping stone not the end result.
22. Do Not Limit Your Dreams. You want it, then ask for it and go and get it. It’s impossible you say? GREAT! Be the first one to do it! Anything is possible. Dream as big as you can, never give up on those dreams and never settle. Find a way where there is no way!

Things Not To Do Online And Things To Understand About Life

 

1. Don’t advertise your happy marriage on social media. You could attract the wrath of a jealous ex-turned-villain.
2. Don’t post your private family photos all over the internet. Someone could use them to ruin the lives of your loved ones.
3. Don’t discuss your private matters on social media. You don’t know who is reading or listening.
4. Don’t befriend everybody who requests to be friends with you on social media. Cyber-stalkers have ruined privacy and the reputation of the internet.
5. Don’t store your passwords or security credentials online. The database could be hacked.
6. Don’t fall in love with anyone on social media. They could easily be predators prowling on you.
7. Don’t advertise your pregnancy on social media. A deranged lunatic could do the unthinkable and trigger a miscarriage.
8. Don’t advertise your kids' achievements on social media. Malicious people could ruin their lives.
9. Don’t advertise your expensive buys on social media. You could attract thieves or even robbers.
10. Never share any compromising photos on social media. They’ll definitely be shared all over the internet.

UNDERSTAND THIS ABOUT LIFE…

1. Not everyone is going to be happy for you.
2. Most of the “nice” comments you get on social media are fake.
3. You are just attracting the evil eye on you and your family.
4. There are people who just hate you for no apparent reason.
5. People are not what they seem like. The internet has been infiltrated by cyber-stalkers who could be your ex or your next-door neighbor.
6. Up to 50% of social media accounts could be fake according to some statistics.
7. You are just attracting jealous people into your life every day you look attractive.
8. You don’t know who is saving your pictures and checking your updates.
9. Social media is sometimes the devil’s eye, ears, and mouth.
10. The more you expose yourself publicly online, the more you are treading on dangerous grounds since this could attract evil people who could ruin your life, family, marriage, and career.

15 Wise Lessons Of Life

1. Life doesn’t always go your way.
2. You can not change someone. Move on.
3. It doesn’t get better, but we as people have to learn to deal with it in a mature and healthy manner.
4. Once you have found your passion, money won’t be the priority for that job.
5. Never give yourself over to things that will screw you over, your much more worthy than you think you are.
6. Free falling in your own world is a great imaginative way of living happy.
7. It’s okay to live in your fantasy for a bit, but remember that reality is our world. We can’t abandon it.
8. People come and go, you have to get used to it.
9. The moment you learn to cope with your emotions wisely and maturely, life will get easier, not better, but easier.
10. Nothing matters anymore when you found the thing you love the most.
11. Its a bad day, not a bad life.
12. One day at a time, you got this.
13. Don’t abandon the things you think don’t matter, you’d be surprised how the littlest things can make the biggest changes in your life.
14. Fame and popularity fade away once you turn 18.
15. Money can buy materialistic things that make you happy, but it doesn’t buy happiness.

8 Uncomfortable Truths About Being A Man

 

1. You lose 99% of your close friends if you start upgrading your life.
2. You become more mature when you train yourself to take nothing personally.
3. A salary is the drug your employer gives you to forget your dreams.
4. If you continue to wait for the "right time", you’ll waste your entire life and nothing will happen.
5. Even when you trust your close friends and family, let them know nothing about you.
6. Government and politicians are one giant scum that'll never save you from your problems.
7. You'll be 10x happier if you forgive your parents and stop blaming them for your problems.
8. Train yourself to let people win arguments on purpose to conserve your mental health.

10 Strange Facts About Human Behavior That Will Surprise You

1. People walk slower when they are happy and faster when they are anxious or under emotional pressure

2. You naturally trust people more when you first meet them in a warm room than in a cold one

3. Humans are the only animals that cry emotional tears and scientists still do not fully understand why we do it

4. People who swear more frequently are on average more honest and straightforward than those who avoid it completely

5. You are significantly more creative at night when you are tired because your brain filters less and connects more freely

6. Holding a warm drink while talking to someone makes you perceive them as a warmer and kinder person subconsciously

7. People who talk to themselves while working perform tasks better and make fewer mistakes than those who stay silent

8. You make better decisions on a full bladder because the same self control muscle is used for both simultaneously

9. People tip more generously on sunny days than on cloudy ones regardless of the quality of the service they received

10. Humans naturally synchronize their footsteps when walking side by side without either person being aware it is happening

7 Unwritten Social Rules To Know

 01. When playing games with children, let them win.

02. Compliment the meal when you're a guest in someone's home.

03. When someone treats you to lunch or dinner, don't order the most expensive dish in the menu. Also, treat them the next time.

04. Step outside to answer phone calls.

05. If someone shows you a photo on their phone, don't swipe left or right. If they want to show what's next, they'll do it.

06. If in a fight, hit first and hit hard.

07. If you're about to leave a bench, but if another person sits next to you; wait few extra minutes before leaving, so you don't hurt that person's feelings.