12 Ideas To Develop Social Skills And Abilities

 

1. Don’t play all your cards, even when your opponent appears to be winning. Only play your cards when you’re sure your opponent doesn’t have anything up their sleeve.
2. Learn to read body language. Most of the time, people say one thing, but they’re usually thinking about something different. You can’t know what’s in people’s minds by observing their faces. However, you can interpret people’s minds by reading their body language and their eyes.
3. When someone asks you a question, don’t be in a hurry to answer or be too generous with your answer. Don’t play hero by volunteering information you were not asked.
4. Develop a habit of remembering people’s first names— including the clerk, the janitor, security guy, caretaker or the policeman. A person’s name is very close to a person, and the sweetest language everyone wants to hear more than any other language. Next time you meet, call them by their first names, and soon enough you will have a following and a group of friends who can do anything you ask.
5. Learn to communicate effectively and politely. Thoroughly develop your communication skills. Everything in life revolves around it, and it will take you far. You will soon realize that people are more interested in the person who knows how to communicate than the person who has a university degree.
6. If you are invited for a white-collar job interview in a company where everybody wears jeans and overalls, including the boss, don’t be foolish and wear a suit and a tie—wear a pair of jeans or overalls, and remember, in that company, the boss doesn’t like people wearing suits and ties—they think people who wear suits and ties are not ready for work.
7. People will always expect you to reciprocate their generosity or favors. Don’t be too foolish and deny them what they think is their right. Do the wise thing—return the favor, and they’ll think you’re normal. Take care, though, that you don’t give them your leg or your arm.
8. Tell people what they expect to hear. Don’t be too radical, and don’t go against the grain—even if people look dumb. You can make more friends in three months by conforming to people’s expectations than by trying to get people to like you in three years.
9. When talking, don’t try to compete with people. There’s nothing to be gained by outdoing others in talking or outsmarting others. In fact, the less you speak, the less people know about you, and the more they respect you.
10. The Japanese have a saying: “A clever eagle hides its claws”. When feeling strong, don’t show it to people. When you’re weak don’t even say anything. There’s much strength in silence, and there’s much power in staying humble.
11. A simple greeting costs nothing, yet it can build massive bridges between you and your perceived enemies and friends alike. IT can win you favors, get you into places you’re not allowed to get into, and get you out many undesired situations.
12. When you help other people or participate in charity, don’t blow the trumpet. Let others do it for you, for there’s nothing to be gained by praising yourself and everything to lose by bringing shame and dishonor upon yourself.

5 Effective Habits Used To Increase Productivity And Make You Live More Happily

Habit 1: Sleep 8–9 Hours a Night

If you’ve been following me for any amount of time, then you’ve heard this one before.

I’ve said it once and I’ll say it a thousand times… You NEED to prioritize your sleep.

I know plenty of people who think that they will “Get” an extra 2–3 hours out of their day by sleeping on 6 hours and waking up early.

According to all of the science, they are wrong. Sleep deprivation (6 hours or less for most people) slows your cognitive process WITHOUT you even realizing it. It’s a form of self torture.

This means that even though you might not “think” that you are sleep deprived subjectively, when you measure key performance metrics against well rested subjects, the data tells a different story.

If you aren’t sleeping 8 hours a night you are doing something wrong.

Forget the 5 a.m. miracle.

Get your 8 hours and you’ll perform better, feel better, and do better than you would getting 6 hours but waking up early.

Habit 2: Drink One Green Smoothie Every Morning

I thought green smoothies would be a fad.

They weren’t.

I started drinking 1–2 smoothies a day and it radically improved my mood and energy levels almost overnight.

You don’t have to complicate things here.

Just a handful of organic spinach and kale, a 1/2 banana, cucumber slices, 1 celery stick, carrots, frozen strawberries and some water is all that you need to reap the many benefits of getting more veggies.

Habit 3: Take a 60 Minute Walk, Jog or Bike Ride in the Middle of the Day

One of the most common misconceptions about productivity is that getting things done requires you to work more hours.

In reality, it requires you to work smarter.

Few people realize that mental energy is a finite resource.

Scientifically speaking, you cannot sustain optimal levels of cognitive performance for more than 6–7 hours a day without the aid of narcotics or prescription meds.

You need to take breaks to restore your mental energy and inject some life into your work day.

I found that by taking a 90 minute walk or bike ride around 2 p.m. everyday (my least productive time of day), I’m able to overcome the afternoon slump and stay productive much longer than I can when I try to power through without rest.

Habit 4: Read for 60 Minutes, Take Action for 180 Minutes

You’ve all heard the saying that “Knowledge is power”

This is not true.

Knowledge is useless unless it’s applied.

Unless you take action.

Over the past few years, I’ve read hundreds of books on a wide variety of different topics.

And it didn’t change a damn thing in my life until I realized that knowledge without action is futile.

I made the commitment to educate myself in a 1:3 ration.

For every hour that I spent reading about performance, goal setting, personal development etc. I had to spend at least 3 hours taking some form of action towards living the life that I wanted to live.

If you implement this into your daily routine, it will change your life.

Habit 5: Quit Complaining

Complaining makes you dumb. Literally. It has been shown to decrease the size of your brain, negatively impact cognitive processes, and increase depression, anxiety, and chronic pain.

A few years ago I made a commitment to give up complaining for good.

It hasn’t been easy and I still catch myself whining about silly crap from time to time, but being conscious of how amazing my life is and focusing on the good has changed how I live forever.

I’ve learned that I am always in control. It’s always up to me to determine how I will react to something or how I should respond to adversity.

Quit complaining and reclaim your personal power.

12 Very Important Lessons To Learn Early In Life

1. Money: It buys freedom and options, not happiness.
2. Friends: Quality over quantity. Give me 2–3 solid friends, and leave the rest as acquaintances.
3. Lessons: Believe it or not, you teach people how to treat you at your very first meeting. Don’t be afraid of boundaries, enforce them.
4. Self Awareness: Without it, you may spend a life time of blaming others for your misfortunes and problems.
5. Control: No matter how badly you think what is best for others, you can only control yourself.
6. Advice: Keep that shit to yourself, unless asked for it. And even then, tread lightly.
7. Reciprocate: You don’t want to be cheated on, don’t cheat. You want respect, give respect. I know it’s cliche’ but treat those as you want to be treated.
8. Convenience: Never treat someone such as. And if you find yourself being treated as such, remove that person from your life. Know your worth.
9. Wrong: When you are wrong, promptly check your “ego” and own it. Make amends where needed and work on not repeating hurtful behaviors.
10. Betrayal: It will never come from an enemy. Think about that.
11. Replacement: Could be a career or relationship. No matter what you think, you can and will be replaced. Be grateful for what you have. Generally the grass isn’t always “greener.”
12. Love: If you are one of the few that find it. Make sure the person knows it. Don’t do anything to make that person question their self worth.