7 Harsh Realities Of Life

1. Looks matter. A lot. Being a handsome man, is one of the most “unfair advantage” you could ever have. Better pay. More options in terms of relationships. Easier to make friends. More sex. I could go on and on…Luckily, unhandsome men can become handsome in a matter of 2–3 months. Get leaner, dress better (fitting clothes, wear black), start lifting weights and train in the fighting arts.
2. Money matters. A lot. Yes, all by itself money won’t make you happy. But you’d be a fool to say that having lots of money WON’T measurably increase your quality of life. You could get out of a dead-end job. You could be the master of your own time. You could retire your mom.
3. Working hard and “hustling 24/7” is CRIMINALLY overrated and toxic. 20% of your efforts contribute to 80% of your success in any given field. Be it business, good grades in school/college, building muscle and losing fat, dating, relationships…Everywhere. Which means, that there is just a handful of behaviours/actions/customers/partners (20%) that disproportionally contribute to your success and happiness. Hard work, and especially “hustling” is greatly overrated. You need to work hard at the right stuff, the 20% of factors that contribute to 80% of your success. That’s how you get real world success.
4. At our core….We’re all like crack addicts - Our brain is wired in a way, that we’re NEVER, ever satisfied. No matter what domain of life, we always want more and more.More money. More experiences. More friends. Problem is: There’s a point of diminishing returns, where more X doesn’t lead to more happiness.
5. We’re all deluding ourselves about who’s in the driver’s seat of our behaviour - Do you want to know how to spot a dumb person almost 100% of the time? They say: “I’m super rational.” Haha. Sure. No, you’re not. We’re all very irrational and almost always decide with our emotions first and then use our rationality to justify our choices.
6. People lie all the time - But their behaviour can’t. Everybody says: “This year I’m going to get into shape.” But then they get drunk and high on the weekend and scarf down 3 burritos and skip the gym because “hangover”. Never take people for their word - Always look at their actions. People’s behaviour tell the real story, while they tell the story that sounds good to others.
7. 90% of self-help, fitness and business advice is complete and utter bullshit that doesn’t work in the “Real World”. Most advice in books, articles, YT vids and even paid courses and seminars, sounds really good and helpful in theory, but always fails to deliver in the real world. But it get’s worse…Some of the advice is even dangerous. Most popular diets, for example, will make you gain fat back! Most self-help advice will only make you feel good for a couple of weeks, instead of teaching you how to change your habits. An then you’re back to square one, feeling even worse about yourself for “failing”.

5 Harshest Ways To Hurt Someone Emotionally

 

1. Gaslighting: There is no worse emotional damage than making someone question their sanity and reality. This is far worse than even Physical Abuse I believe. This is # 1 in my book! And repeated gaslighting can do long term damage.
2. Betrayal: Here you make a person question their self worth. This is right up there with gaslighting, damaging as hell.
3. Physical abuse: While bruises heal, can still have a damaging effect.
4. Lying: Repetitive lying is very emotionally abusive. Not only will you make your partner not trust you, they will have to work through this abuse in future relationships with trust issues.
5. Silent Treatment: Ignoring a person to punish them. Purposely doing so for control is very hurtful.

I would rather be physically abused than emotionally abused. Emotional abuse can take years to sort out through all your relationships in life.

6 Of The Best Ways To Learn And Improve Self-control

 1. Take a Cold Shower Every Morning

Cold showers suck.

Forcing yourself to endure the icy blast of a cold shower first thing in the morning requires discipline and a high threshold for pain.

They’re not easy, they’re not fun, and they’re not comfortable.

So do them.

Even if it’s just for 30 seconds.

Start your day off by forcing yourself to endure acute stress and overcome the desire for a warm and easy shower.

It will be hard.

But it will build discipline like nothing else.

2. Meditate for 10 Minutes a Day

Meditation might seem like an odd way to build discipline.

After all, you just have to sit on your butt and think about nothing right?

Well, not exactly…

Meditation requires you to discipline your thoughts.

To clear your mind, center your body, and reconnect with your breath.

Meditation helps you clear out the mental clutter and allows you to reconnect with yourself.

And it’s harder than you think.

Sitting and thinking about nothing but your breath requires tremendous discipline and focus.

I promise you that if you are willing to give this a go for 30 days, you WILL increase your discipline and will power in surprising ways.

3. Begin Your Day with 100 Push-ups or a 1-mile Run

100 push-ups should only take you 5 minutes.

A one mile run takes 6–10 minutes.

But they are powerful tools for building discipline.

By starting your day with some form of physical activity, you will jump start your success throughout the day and force yourself to do something uncomfortable and difficult first thing in the morning.

Do this before your morning cold shower and you will have shown more discipline before 8 a.m. than most people do ALL day.

4. Make Your Bed

Making your bed takes 2 minutes.

But it’s a small activity that requires discipline because, there’s no real reason to do it.

Sure, it allows you to accomplish one task before you get your day started.

But it’s not like making your bed will increase your income, make you more productive, or increase your sex appeal.

It’s the ultimate exercise in futility.

But you should still do it.

Making your bed first thing in the morning puts you into a disciplined and productive state immediately when you start your day.

It’s also a powerful motivation to stay awake instead of crawling into the warm sheet.

5. Eliminate Distractions

Distractions kill discipline.

If you want to be more disciplined throughout the day, eradicate all distractions.

Turn off your phone.

Install a Facebook news feed blocker.

Turn off notifications on your computer.

Focus only on the task at hand.

This will allow you to be more focused and productive and will require tremendous amounts of daily discipline.

Avoiding the dopamine inducing social media notifications and text messages isn’t easy, but it’s well worth it.

6. Quit Complaining

Complaining is like cancer in your soul.

You have a lot to be thankful for.

But everytime you complain, you tell yourself that your life sucks and that things aren’t the way that they should be (even when they’re great).

So quit complaining.

It’s like a poison.

It distracts you from the good and makes you focus on everything that is wrong.

It makes other people like you less, makes you miss opportunities, and distracts you from living an amazing life.

Buy a rubber band and put it on your right wrist.

If you find yourself complaining throughout the day, move it to your left wrist.

Your goal is to make it 30 days with that rubber band staying on your right hand.

If you can do this, your discipline, happiness, and motivation will skyrocket.

Hope this helps.