How To Stop Worrying And Go To Sleep At Night

You need enough sleep. You need enough sleep in order to function and in order to restore and rejuvenate your mind and your body.

Tens of millions of people have insomnia and other sleep problems. Stress, worry and fear can be major contributors to sleep (and non-sleep) problems.

It is very common for people to toss and turn all night or sleep too few hours or not sleep at all.

This may often be due to one's mind continuing to focus (at top speed) on problems instead of shutting down at night and resting.

When I was in my 20's, and a money market trader on Wall Street, I had the very same problem. I had a job that required me to function at an extremely high level, continually, all day long. From 7AM to 7PM.

I could not go to sleep at night because my mind was still racing, reviewing the day's work (and problems) and planning the next day's work (and problems).

The lack of sleep began to interfere with my ability to function on the job at the required high level. If this continued, I would not be able to do my job effectively and I would soon be tired, and fired. I had to get more sleep.

When I realized that it was my mind that was keeping me awake until 1AM - 2AM, I decided I had to do something about it. What did I do? How did I solve the problem? What I did was make a deal with my brain.

The deal was that when it was time to go to sleep I would take all my problems, worries and fears out of my brain and set them down on the nightstand next to my bed.

I promised my brain that all my problems, worries and fears would still be there on the nightstand in the morning when I woke up and I would pick all my problems up off the nightstand, put them back in my brain, and my brain could start spinning and racing and worrying all over again. After a few nights of trying this it began to work. I fooled my brain.

I trained my brain. Now, when it was time to go to sleep, I was able to lay down, put my problems and worries and fears aside, and go to sleep.

And in the morning, I was refreshed and ready to face the day. That was decades ago and since then, when I get into bed, I lay down my troubles. And have no trouble going to sleep at night.

In addition, I learned something else; a lot of the things I worried about at night disappeared or lessened when I went to pick them up off the nightstand the next morning.

When it's time to go to sleep, the day is finished. Put your worries down. When day is done and it's time for sleep, there is nothing more you can actually do right now about your existing problems, worries and fears.

Put them down on the nightstand, or, if you prefer, place an empty box next to your bed to put your problems in at night. Don't worry, all your problems, worries and fears will still be there in the morning. Or not. Meanwhile, you can go to sleep.

And, if you wish, you can even write down your worries on a piece of paper and physically put them in the box. And, in the morning, you can once again pick them up. Or not.

As for the box, any empty box will do. Any color. It may help if the box has a lid and you can leave it open to easily put in your worries, problems and fears. No, it doesn't have to be a large box. Unless you have a LOT of worries.


Andrew Lawrence is the author of more than 20 self-improvement books. Unlike many self-help books, his books are short, easy to read, and easy to understand. Read free excerpts at: https://andrew-lawrence.blogspot.com

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The Meaning And Causes Of Loneliness

Loneliness tends to be truly only for chronically lonely individuals, not for “State-lonely” individuals whose loneliness is adequately explained by potent situation factors (e.g. widowhood, geographical relocation). More like a trait even when induced in an acute fashion.

 “Loneliness” by Fromm Reichmann (1959). Empirical research into loneliness was supported by the efforts of Perlman and peplum (1981), who defined loneliness as “the unpleasant experience that occurs when a person’s network of social relations is deficient in some important way, either quantitatively or qualitatively.”Another definition of loneliness, frequently used in European Countries, is formulated as follows:

 Loneliness is a situation experienced by the individual as one where there is an unpleasant or indivisible lack of (quality of) certain relationships. This includes situations, in which the number of existing relationships is smaller than is considered desirable or admissible, as well as situations where the intimacy one wishes for has not been realized.”      

 Loneliness is a subjective and negative experience, and the outcome of a cognitive evaluation of the match between the quantity and quality of existing relationships and relationship standards. The opposite of loneliness is belongingness .
Loneliness can also be defined as the distress occurs when one’s social relationships are perceived as being less satisfying than what is desired.

The work of John Bowlby on a attachment bonds (Bowlby, 1973) heralds the beginning of theoretical conceptualizations of loneliness. Roberts Weiss (1973) delineated an attachment theory of loneliness in which deficiencies in social relationships serving specific functions (e.g. attachment, social integration, and nurturance) were posited to contribute to feelings of loneliness.

·        Social loneliness – means lack of social integration.

·        Emotional loneliness – means absence of reliable attachment figure.   

   Common Causes of Loneliness

1.      People with mental illness: - People who are living with mental illness are particularly prone to feeling lonely.

2.      Lone Careers: - Caring for someone it can be very difficult to leave the house and get out and about. It is not uncommon for lone cares to feel isolated or alone.

3.      People with physical disability: - People in this condition on are at risk of experiencing loneliness for a number of reasons. Stigma and disadvantage can cause people who experience a physical disability to feel excluded from social activities.

4.      People experiencing discrimination – Being treated as different from others can often make people feel lonely or isolated. Being discriminated against because of ethnicity, gender, sexuality or any other cause.                                      

Some Reasons People feel lonely include:

1.      Technology: - Through the internet and mobile phones are awesome, they can sometimes make us fell detached from the world around us.

2.      Not fitting in: - When you are in an environment where you do not feel comfortable, when somebody bullied or discriminated against.

3.      No one listen to you: - When you are young. It can feel like no one listens to you or takes you seriously. It can make someone feel lonely and not important.

4.      Physical Isolation: - Sometimes we’re in a situation where there is just no one around. This can be as a result of moving to a new place, living alone, family moving away or someone dying.
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